When it comes to 2018 New Year’s resolutions, Josh Murray’s list is short and sweet: “I want to get married and have kids!”

The twice-engaged Murray has come “this” close as one of TV’s favorite suitors during Season 10 of The Bachelorette, and Season 3 of Bachelor in Paradise. But getting to “I do” has proven elusive.

“I went on those shows to find love. I was 2-for-2 then 0-for-2. Winning is losing on that show for me! Ha!” laughs the native New Yorker. “[But] I learned what I don’t want in a wife: I don’t like fake. I have had to deal with that in the past.”